Don’t waste your time on blame and fault.
In this life:
-There will be those who hurt you
-There will be those who accuse you of the wrong things
-There will be those who contradict themselves obviously
-There will be times you feel offended
And you most likely will do all these to the others as well.
Don’t get me wrong. There is most definitely a “Right” and a “Wrong” in this world; and there is benefit to looking over past actions for ways to improve in the future… but tell me; Is anyone wrong for the sake of being wrong?
We have this nasty habit of judging people’s and our own intentions by our actions. That’s not the way it works.
People are logically illogical. No matter how ludicrous their actions may seem. No matter how many people they blindly walked over to get to where they are. No matter how much they say “A=B and that’s why B will never = A!” the truth is, their actions are based on a logical assessment of what they accomplish vs what it costs. They may be sincerely wrong, but they are still sincere….
This is why so many arguments turn to flame wars in debates. We approach those we don’t agree with, not as people who have logical reasons for the choices they make clouded by their limited perspective we all share as human beings… but instead as “THOSE MONSTERS WHO HAVE PERSONALLY MADE IT THEIR LIFE’S PURPOSE TO DESTROY ME AND EVERYONE LIKE ME!” We like this philosophy. It makes us feel just, and powerful. It makes us feel like we have the right to attack in any way we so desire, after all these people are “evil”! …. this viewpoint is the most worthless waste of time we can pursue.
We are all people! We have differing views. We have differing backgrounds. We have differing talents and abilities. But we are all still people in the end. Do you react with a “Oh wow! I have seen the error of my ways! I shall think on this as I follow your advice.” when you are accused of being a demon, monster, or any other slur we toss so lightly at those we disagree with?? No! It makes us want to fight! To hold on tighter to our cause just to spite those rude people who have offended us!
So then why do we assume we will accomplish anything by throwing these slurs at others??
Again I will repeat this so as to not create any confusion:
-I am NOT saying that everyone is right and it doesn’t really matter. There is most DEFINITELY a true right and a true wrong in this world!
-I am NOT saying just let people do as they will, it doesn’t matter if they hurt others. No! There are consequences to our actions, and choosing poorly will hurt others.
But why do we assume intent from action? Why do we consider worth of the person via the successes and failures we recognize?
We aren’t people on a high peak looking down at the peons in the garbage pit. We’re all lost souls, treading water. Just because one may be clinging onto the lifeboat, doesn’t mean that they are superior to everyone else.
You can see faults in those around you that you yourself have dealt with. Good for you. Help them. Encourage them. Guide them, but also realize the choice is ultimately theirs. As frustrating as it can be, don’t look down on them if they don’t decide to follow you. Realize the immense amount of shortcomings you must have that YOU can’t or won’t see and deal with.
So then how can we know who’s valuable and who isn’t? Who’s mature and who’s immature? Who’s strong and who’s weak?
….News Flash…. We are all made in God’s image and loved by Him enough for Him to send His son to die for our sins…. I mean… there is absolutely nothing we could do to earn this worth. That’s why it’s called grace. Because it was given. What do you mean one may have earned more value than the other??? None of us have “earned” anything! We are all lost sinners but for grace. And because of grace we are all now precious and irreplaceable. Whether we choose to accept the gift or not doesn’t affect our value, only our fate.
Who’s mature? Is anyone mature? When I was a 5 year old they told me I was still young. When I was 10 they told me I was still young. When I was 20 again… I was still young… I have witnessed people in their 60’s being told “You are still young.” No matter how old you get. No matter how much you learn. You are still immature. There are still things for you to learn. You are human. You have blind spots. That will not change. If someone points out that you have areas you are weak in, that is not a bash to your value. It is just a fact of life. We all have areas we are weak in. Many times we think others have areas they’re weak in when really it is our own weakness blinding us. Do not judge others based on the maturity you can see.
Who is strong and who is weak? How can you determine strength? We often determine strength based on what we view ourselves being able to handle. This is a bad way to measure strength. Can a pencil consider a hammer to be strong because it can hammer in nails without breaking? Can a hammer consider a pencil to be strong because it can sacrifice itself to write papers that may topple nations or inspire generations? How can you compare strength by comparing the actions of things meant for different scenarios? It is not strength not to struggle. It is strength to push forward even when it is tough. It is not strength not to fail. It is strength to get back up again after failure. Strength is not something we are born with, it is something we choose to do. We are not strong or weak people. We choose in each moment if we will stand strong or give in to our weakness. And through each moment the challenge is brought to you, the choice is never any easier.
So people make choices based on what they logically believe is the most constructive to them. Not specifically to attack you.
So our worth is not based on our actions or existence or seeming lack of weaknesses.
So fighting against those we disagree with is unproductive because they are not illogical mindless demons bent on destroying everything we care about in spite of what activist articles may label them all
But what if they DO hurt us! What then??? What can we do to protect ourselves?? How can we stay safe?!?!
Do you believe in God?
(If no, then I’m sorry… for many reasons, but mostly because there is only so far I can encourage through a logical argument without going straight to the core of all logic itself)
If you do believe in God, do you believe He truly cares for us like He said He does? That He is as all powerful as He says He is? That He is all that He says He is?
No… I’m not going to say “then He will protect you from the evil ones.” because that’s not the point. And let’s admit it, He won’t stop all the hits from coming. How much have Christians suffered in the past? We’ve been burnt on stakes for entertainment, fed to wild animals, executed in every manner of the way, manipulated by those who wanted power and wealth, been turned into the scape goats for all the worlds’ problems often caused by actions we warned them against taking in the first place….
In Life You Will Get Hurt!
But here’s the thing… God is still in control…
God blinds the eyes of who He wishes, opens the eyes of who He wishes, hardens the hearts of who He wishes, lets rise into power who He wishes, tears down from power who He wishes. Whether the people in question follow Him or not, He can still use it to His plan.
If you truly believe God is all He says He is, then realize, when someone comes up you’d rather not deal with. God let that person appear. And God would only do that to help you grow. Perhaps to reveal sin and weakness in your own life, perhaps to help you build endurance, perhaps to give you an example of how you should never act when you are in the place of your offender.
Realize these are not trials… but opportunities. Opportunities to grow. Opportunities to learn. Is God punishing you for not being perfect? He never thought you were. Are you letting God down by not being strong enough? You were never holding Him up.
Have faith and know. He is in control.