Originally Posted January 29 2016
I’ve noticed three main types when it comes to people who want to help others. The first would of course be those who focus on destroying the problem vs helping the victims and I have ranted about them more than enough in life, but I thought I’d focus on the other two.
If life were like jogging, these two would be like two types of runners. The first lives for the adventure and seeing what lies ahead. They’re driven and athletic and nothing can seem to hold them back. As they run about in their merry journey they may come across less fortunate runners who either are running the wrong way, have fallen down and hurt themselves, or are just too scared to even consider starting to run.
When this first group sees such people they feel it is their mission to pick these people up, set them on the right path, and inspire them to run far. Once they’ve done this they quickly run on ahead looking for what life brings them next and if there’s anyone else they can do a good deed for.
The only problem is that they are far too focused on what’s ahead to look back. They don’t see the people they’ve just helped, struggling to keep up with them, scared to be left alone again, and desperately wanting to stay with that person who took the time to care about them. When they finally realize they can’t catch up, or that if they did, that runner has already moved onto the next person, they fall back down again feeling yet again abandoned and meaningless.
Then there’s the second group I’ve noticed. Those who run a little slower than the first. Yes they want to see what lies ahead and to keep moving forward, but that’s not their only priority. When they see the same fallen people they tend to walk along side of them, keeping pace and watching them build confidence. They put a lot of time into those people, months, years, and more making sure they understand the importance of their journey and have confidence they can take it. Then when the people they’re helping become self sufficient runners they let them go off and live their lives as they want, be it continuing to run with them, or with someone else they’ve met. All the while though they keep them within their sight so they can make sure they’re there for them if they need help.
Am I saying the first group are horrible people? No. There is merit in being motivated, and if we don’t keep moving ahead we’ll never be able to help those who need us… But be wary. If you focus on what’s ahead, pay attention to what’s left behind. Lives are not like passing ships. We impact each other in ways we don’t even realize. Take your relationships old and new seriously, because at the end of this race, it’s about how many finish, not who finished first