Originally Posted February 12 2016
There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. John 15:13
I often struggled with this verse, after all, there aren’t many opportunities for me to lay down my life for my friends anymore, does that mean I can never show the ultimate form of love to others? But recently I’ve realized something.
The same way that “giving your life for God” means so much more than dying a martyr, I think laying down your life for your friends can also mean more.
I see a lot of posts, especially around this time of year, about what it means to be in love, or what love looks like, be it obsessively thinking about them, finding even the weirdest parts of them attractive, or longing for every little touch from them, but I don’t think that is enough. If you REALLY want to experience true love… A love that passes all understanding, and forever changes people, die to yourself….
Don’t get angry when they don’t do what you want them to. Give up any expectations of what you deserve and what you need to get for them to truly love you. Make your focus entirely on what you can give to them, not what you’re getting out of it. Be it friendships or relationships, live your life to build others up, not to strengthen your pride.
To die to oneself is by far the more difficult choice than to let oneself die, because you then have to deal with the consequences afterwards. But to die to oneself is the first step on impacting the lives of many, including your own!